Parent who is one time, but takes their time leaving

[Play and Learn]

This is in my manual as part of Guidelines for Parents:

. Drop-off and pick-up on time. Do not linger. Do not bring toys, food, or drink for your child from home unless on special occasion or with permission. Provide supplies in a timely manner - diapers, appropriate spare clothing for the season and medicines/diaper creams. No shoes in the house (beyond the mat at the front door). Upon the third infraction of any guideline, as outlined in the manual, a two-week termination notice will be given.

Another part of this is

Respect the Daycare Provider

. IF they can't do this, then they get a strike.

I also have a business in the evenings that I need to get ready for. During the interview process, I let the families know that pick-up needs to be quick, as I only have an hour of 'down time/supper time' until I teach for 3 hours in the evening. Again, if they can't respect my wishes/manual, then they get a strike/warning, and time to go.

THIS IS YOUR BUSINESS. YOUR HOME, YOUR RULES.

[Inspired by Reggio]

I personally do not mind if they stay a bit at pick up for a bit of a play and observation of their child with the other kids - as long as it is not the actual END of the day - however you follow the rules of my program or I will and DO ask you to leave ... I have had one client - the only one I ever vent about - who I have had to physically usher to my door or gate and say 'sorry you are not coping with mom / dad here it is time for them to take you home - we cannot behave like this at Reggio's house. We will see you tomorrow when you are rested and making better choices' - and they leave often with their child kicking and screaming out the house

I thrive and INSIST on consistency for children ... the rules and consequences for poor choices in behavior are the same no matter WHO is present and to be honest if the client does not step up and parent their child at drop off or pick up I WILL - my house, my rules and my control!

[samantha3]

Wow, I have this problem too!! lol I always thought I was alone on this one. I am not sure why it even bothers me when the one mom comes in and sits down. I think it bothers me when other families start coming in and while I am reading stories to the children(our end of the day activity) they start to talk... umm, we cannot hear the story because you two are talking soooooooo loud!!! ahhh

Also, sometimes she lingers for almost an hour!!! I just feel that when another adult is around the children are always trying to push boundaries more, and it is at the end of the day so it can get to be quite exhausting! Vent over

[Crayola kiddies]

An hour ????? Seriously????? Does this parent not have a life?

[samantha3]

LOL, that is what I thought... she sometimes takes 30min to drop off too.... I am writing up an email to her as I saw this post. This behavior needs to stop cuz its driving me crazy!!!

[Fun 88]

Thank you for all of the comments.

My title of the thread should have read "Parent who is on time, but takes their time leaving.
The father is not much for small talk so it makes things weird.
The mom is great, when she drops off the child it is only 15 seconds!

[Momof4]

I have an entrance hallway into my home and I stand at the end of it and chat with the parents in the morning and in the afternoon and they can't get in. I have the children ready to go when the parents arrive and get them out as quickly as I can. I do have one Mom who likes to chat but I like her and don't mind. I would never put up with anybody coming in and making themselves comfortable in my home unless I asked them in. That's just rude!

[Cocoon]

I have one mom who comes in the morning and chat with me for half an hour. I don't mind as I like her and it is in the morning anyway Another mom who comes at pick up times. I like her too but she likes to chat not necessarily about her kid though but as I said I don't mind as long as I don't have anything to do on that day. Or I just tell the kid "shu shu go home I need to go out" jokingly of course

Mostly the kids run around and parents trying to catch them. Now what I do is get them ready and make them sit by the door so no one is running in my house and the pick up time is quicker

[clep]

I have one parent that stays till close every day and it is usually for about two hours!!!! I don't entertain her at all and she plays with all of the children. It still drives me crazy though as the children just aren't the same with any of the parents there.

[dodge__driver11]

clep are you serious?? would happen here Id ask the parent to take thier child home to play.