All my dck's eat the same foods. I wean my babies if they come early enough on their seperate, fruits, veggies and then I just puree the same as they other kiddies are eating and eventually mash, or chop depending on the consistency of the food they are able to have but I dont make different things for different kids. They learn that there is one meal for all of them and if they are fussy then there isn't an alternative. If they are hungry, they will eventually eat and in the 5 years I have done daycare, and the 11 years of being a parent, this rule of thumb has never failed me. If I accomodated all the kids with their likes and dislikes, they would have me wrapped around their finger and I'm not having that. Who's the adult and who's the child in this situation??? I'm not going to play that game with them. And it works. I've never had an issue. If we are having a casserole and the child isn't going to use their spoon but instead delve in with their hands, WHO CARES. This is part of their learning process, it's just messier and not the end of the world. The food still goes in one way or another. They will learn eventually. I don't sweat this small stuff.