totally agree with Judy, though it seems a little harsh, its true. We all need to remember we have a job to do and it is not to make friends with all the kids and love them all soooo deeply. We are here to keep them safe, fed, loved, and cared for while their parents are off to work, and any extra is really some awsome icing on the cake. You can't MAKE a child like you, you can however make them respect you. And that is what you need to do with the hitter...but you don't have to go any farther than that, just respect him or her in return and keep them cared for properly. In time you might find some deep love or emotion for the child, or you may not. Just hold in the fact that the child is a "stink" and take care until the front door is closed for the night. Hard to do in our job, we are mostly very loving and "want" deeply for all the kids to love us in return as much as we want to love them....some kids just aren't as easy to love.