She works at home? I don't have any of those Moms, but I have friends who have stay at home Moms of children in their daycare and they all sound the same. Whether they work or not they can structure their days so that their children are one of their priorities. I have had Moms arrive 10-15 minutes late because they got a phone call at their office just when they were about to leave or something like that, but that's not a big deal. I just don't get it and you are doing the right thing by standing tough apples and bananas!