ANOTHER problem: feeding himself

[playfelt]

If you are feeding all of the other children and he is being fed at home he just assumes this is what is done.

As far as the pregnancy goes mom could be just getting tired and feeding him even more than before just to avoid the mess and it does go faster to shovel the food in than let them do it themselves. It is long term that this isn't a good idea.

Just make him wait. Give him pieces of food (no milk) on his tray and then feed the babies and then give them their milk or some fingerfood - cereal if possible or a toy if not. Then feed the 14 month old. If he gets tired of waiting he may feed himself. The goal is that over time he learns that his life is more fun if he feeds himself and if not then at least you are doing it on your time frame and not his.

By 18 months then it is time for heart to heart with parents that enough is enough and child needs to be given responsibility for eating at home too.