I have a 14 month old also and she will eat a bit with her hands but it depends on what it is ..... She can eat a ton if I feed her but only eats a little if I don't and really it doesn't take that long to feed do I do it once she has stopped eating on her own .... Although the rest of my kids are all 2 and over so it's not an inconvenience and I'd rather feed her and thrn she will gave a good 2.5 hour nap then listen to her scream and if your other ones are feeding themselves then why not? and maybe the 11 month old starting next week will self feed. Good luck