Won't go pee without permission

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Scheduled potty breaks isn't as bad as it sounds. I have three training or well now reaching the end of training and without them we never accomplished anything so I started just taking everybody every hour which is what is done in many daycare centres to teach potty and most would go when we went. The idea was they learned to hold it till the next trip. They were in pullups anyways. But there was no way I was letting them into underwear if there wasn't a length of time between trips. Otherwise a 15 minutes circletime was taking an hour and it got to the point when asked to do something like pickup suddenly they had to pee - um saw through that one. So by taking them at intervals it solved a lot of issues. That doesn't mean they couldn't ask to go unless we were in the middle of a group activity - non of them could/would go on their own which also annoyed me to the point. The point of going as a group or going at intervals was to elimante "having to pee" as a control feature for the child. Once that was gone things settled into a routine and over time we got to the point I didn't take them and they had to remind me when it was time to go meaning they reminded me when they needed to go and if they didnt' then it meant they weren't ready for the responsibility of wearing underwear.

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Scheduled potty breaks isn't as bad as it sounds. I have three training or well now reaching the end of training and without them we never accomplished anything so I started just taking everybody every hour which is what is done in many daycare centres to teach potty and most would go when we went. The idea was they learned to hold it till the next trip. They were in pullups anyways. But there was no way I was letting them into underwear if there wasn't a length of time between trips. Otherwise a 15 minutes circletime was taking an hour and it got to the point when asked to do something like pickup suddenly they had to pee - um saw through that one. So by taking them at intervals it solved a lot of issues. That doesn't mean they couldn't ask to go unless we were in the middle of a group activity - non of them could/would go on their own which also annoyed me to the point. The point of going as a group or going at intervals was to elimante "having to pee" as a control feature for the child. Once that was gone things settled into a routine and over time we got to the point I didn't take them and they had to remind me when it was time to go meaning they reminded me when they needed to go and if they didnt' then it meant they weren't ready for the responsibility of wearing underwear.

I do the same thing at my day home. We have specific times everyone goes pee, like before bed etc. We have scheduled times to check if everyone has to go. I looked at the original post about scheduled potty breaks to be that the children are going at the scheduled time only. Maybe I misunderstood that.

I am very confused by the idea of pull ups. They are just a glorified diaper and in the child's mind they are no different than a diaper. I find it to be difficult for the child to really "get" the potty teaching process with a pull up. I have a five day method that I have not had fail yet, where there are no pull ups involved at all and underwear are in place from day one of the physical part of the process. I think they need to feel wet and uncomfortable to get it and a pull up doesn't provide that experience. We have a three week prep process before day one of the physical part.

I am asking the child if they need to go on day one, day two is a combination of child telling me and me asking, day three is the same and day four and five is them telling me. Even if they are to pee their pants on day four without telling me that doesn't mean to me they aren't ready. To me it means they are little and trial and error is a part of the process.