Wow ~ I agree that what one person does on their own time is their own business as long as it does not impact the service being provided to you ~ however the minute she called a CLIENT it was no longer her own time she made that 'business time' ... IMO calling a client while drunk is unprofessional, calling a client while drunk and asking for a 'front' on your payment is unprofessional, calling a client and airing your personal dirty divorce laundry is unprofessional .... the fact that her personal life is obviously having an impact on her BUSINESS would be cause for concern for me and sorry but when it comes to the safety and well being of CHILDREN no second chances in this regard ~ a provider exhibiting signs like this is IMO grounds for immediate termination .... if she is spiraling that out of control it could affect her judgement and reaction time with the children

IMO she should be taking a leave of absence until she gets her 'personal life' straighten out including her fiances ~ how will she be feeding the children or meeting her program obligations to you if her bank assets are frozen???

And seriously ~what time do you send your child there in the morning cause if it is EARLY like most of us who start at 7ish in the morning that is just SCARY for her to be impaired at 9pm???? IMO being IMPAIRED in both judgement and what seemed like intoxication less than 10 hours before having to start work caring for children is NOT COOL .... depending on how much she had had to drink to get to that point of 'calling you' she could likely still be blowing over this morning while 'on the job'????

Based on what you've shared I would be inclined to be either putting my 'foot' down with my concerns and giving her a clear 'goal for improvement of behavior' or I would be pulling my child if she cannot keep her personal life separate from her 'business and program'.