Yes I whole hardheartedly empathize and agree about the control issues and desire to protect oneself ~ I myself suffer from same issues and when I started working from home my one business goal was that no amount of $$$ is worth being treated like a doormat or having to perform a service that sucked at my soul or was contradictory to my belief systems or put my health and well being at risk ~ I did that in centre care for decades and well no more

I am not willing to work with anyone who does SHARE my values anymore ~ we can have different idea on how to achieve those values but the ROOT VALUE has to be there and they have to be willing to work WITH me to achieve that come value and goal in their child, I will not work with anyone who does not respect and value me not only as a business person, a professional but as a human being ... I will admit that I am very picky about whom I choose to allow in to care to minimize having to deal with conflict over the bazillion different things people value in child rearing