DCG crying if see me out in public!!

[Littledragon]

OMG she sounds like my niece! My neice is EXACTLY like this. She was diagnosed just recently with OCD. If she walks along and falls over, she has to do it again without falling. Things always have the be the exact same way (she has NO routine or structure in her home) or she flips out. What is most likely happening, if she doesn't have OCD is that her parents are allowing this behaviour. She's probably indulged at home and runs the show. She honestly sounds like a bit of a drama queen and she knows she can get away with it. It's hard because she's so young but she cleary has both parents wrapped around her finger. Unfortunately, there isn't too much you can do at daycare to rectify this situation rather than just do all you can to boost confidence and make sure she is secure and confident in her environment. Her parents are the ones who are allowing this behavior to continue. She probably feels a bit insecure in her environment at daycare and that is why she needs that same routine, but I'm guessing that when she turns around crying to mom and dad, they coddle her? They need to stop doing that. It will only be detrimental to her well-being, self esteem and self confidence in the future.

Unfortunately, there isn't too much you can do. You can try taking charge as soon as she gets there, to not allow her parents to have so much influence over their daughter when she sets foot on your property, but if she's anything like my niece, it will only makes things worse - because she knows mom and dad are there to make everything better. I once put my neice in a time out when her mom wasn't here and she took it in stride. I put her in a time out when her mom was here and she flipped out, screamed bloody murder and kept screaming, mommy I need you like I was killing her.

Hang in there. This is definitely something you need to talk to the parents about