I recently had a 5yr girl start coming to my dayhome, so far it has been a nightmare! Right from day one she has been messing in her pants both pee and poop, mostly poop though. About the fifth day into it I had her sit on the toilet for probably 30-40mins and nothing, broke down and put a pull up on within 5mins she had filled it! She also has no problem sitting in it, lies to me saying she hasn't pooped. The smell does not keep her secret for very long the other children are now complaining of the smell. The parent just keeps saying that at home this doesn't happen, but since have heard differently from mutual contacts that have asked how things are going. And sadly that is not all, she has tore up carpet, played in the toilet, poked holes in water proof covers on a futon, stuck rocks up her nose, spits, kicks, repeatedly hits and slap and comes with horrible language for kids to be using!!!
So I guess what I'm wondering is this a phase? Or what? Home life seems to be no more worse or hectic then any others. I'm 99% sure she can feel when she has to go. I've never had this happen with any of my new dayhome kiddos, nor my friends dayhome kiddos. I'm finding it very demanding to keep dissenfecting all areas numerous times a day compared to basic sanitizing daily. Reasoning, timeouts, charts nothing seems to work. Not to mention getting a little costly on my part with pull ups and wipes, cleanning products or the things being destroyed. Logically I know I should terminate, but hate to put a family in a tough spot if it can be resolved. Sorry about the long vent any advice will be greatly appreciated!!!