I agree with the others. If you're adament on keeping her, you need to have a CLEAR plan of action and mom and dad need to be on board. They should be supplying the pullups and wipes (do you have babies, do their parents supply the wipes and diapers?) If it were me, and she was damaging my property and being physical with the other kids, and mom and dad were aware and trying to help the situation, I would definitely be terminating.