I agree! Using a stern voice to one person is yelling to another person. I do make sure my dck parents know that I do use a stern voice when needed...they ahve to know you are serious! What I hear way too often these days is "Please don't do that sweetheart" in the most sickly sweet whiney voice...the kid just looks at them like "whatever" and continues with his bad behaviour. Well, I wouldn't take it seriously if I were talked to like that by a police officer either!


Quote Originally Posted by playfelt View Post
Just be careful of the no yelling clause. One of the things I have been finding is that families are being so conscioius of not raising their voice to their children that the children are losing out on knowing where they actually stand and that is one of the reasons they test over and over. In days of yore no meant something cause you knew when mom used "that tone of voice" that you had better not test it. Now that is not so easy.