How would you think/feel?

[mimi]

Smart of you to not react immediately and seek the excellent advice of the above ladies. I am sorry you were disrespected, it is infuriating. I know it can be difficult to find new families to care for and bills need to be paid. I think I would send your email to her and your decision should rest on her response. If it is another snarky one, it's a no brainer- bye bye, but she may be apologetic for her behavior and if you find her apology acceptable to you, you could continue care. Either way, she will know that you are not a person she can ever disrespect again. Good Luck!!!!!

[Inspired by Reggio]

Wow ~ I agree with the ladies about ... I would be having a pointed conversation as well providing a 'written reminder' that sums up my conversation about A) having a back up plan for both emergency and planned closures was discussed in the interview and the summer vacation plan was one of those closures and B) the lack of respect and tone shown if repeated in the future will result in termination of our agreement

Some peoples children!

[jec]

Oh wow!
That is really rude and I would respond by email so you can choose your words carefully ~ being respectful yet firm that you don't accept being spoken to like that. This way you won't get caught off with something she says or her body language ...then when you see her next you can follow up face to face by asking her by looking at her and not turning your eye contact asking if she recived your email.
She needs to know that yes, you both work together but you don't need to take that garbage!

Let us know what you do and how things work out.

[michellesmunchkins]

I still haven't replied back to her. She is supposed to drop her child off tomorrow morning at 7am. I guess her attitude towards me will determine if we continue our working relationship or not. I understand frustration about not having back up care, but still no excuse to to be rude and disrespectful. Thank you ladies for all your amazing feedback and for making me feel like I was right to be offended.

[jec]

My 2 cents {again} I really think you need to address it even if she comes across as pleasant and nothing is wrong at drop off today.
If you allow her to treat you that way, she will continue. You don't need to be confrantational when you talk to her about it and or email back but, not addressing it is like saying it's OK.

Good luck this morning!! Let us know

[Mamma_Mia]

Im a big fan of including the email of where the information was mentioned below....like when my new family was paying me $5 short and said "I swear we agreed on xx a day". I replied with..."As you can see by the email sent on XX/XX/2012 (included below) we had agreed on $XX a day."

I don't say anything else, let them sit with their foot in their mouths.....be embarrased and not say a thing. The next day they either a) pay and say sorry 108374 times or b) pay and say nothing because they are idiots


SO.........if you mentioned it in an email make sure to have a copy ready for her to see AGAIN.

p.s. In my contract - if I know exactly what dates I'm going on vacation for, I make sure it's noted on it in bold. Each family may have a slightly different contract but the "meat" of it stays the same.....no mistakes there!

[Cadillac]

I'm hoping that if you decide to keep her on, your relationships isn't too tarnished. I made the mistake of keeping a family on after mom freaked out on me and needless to say, three months later, I found a way to get them out the door as fast as possible.