[QUOTE=Judy Trickett;20703]Yeah, that is a LONG time to not have adjusted somewhat by now. Honestly, if, by the end of week two I don't start to see improvement I seriously start thinking about terminating them if, in the week following, they aren't 80% transitioned. By week two I start mentioning things to the parents to set them up for the possibility of termination.

Do you have a playpen set up? This is a MUST for every provider. When you get to the point where a child is just grating on your nerves then do not feel bad for putting in a playpen in a separate room and just walking away for a few minutes. [QUOTE]

For my screamer, on his second day, I actually ended up turning on the TV in my room, giving him milk cup and putting him in a play pen. I just COULDN'T take the crying and I felt bad that my son had to endure it too. Anyways, he spent almost the entire day in there. He was quiet, and he just wanted to be alone.

The only thing that makes me worried about terminating a kid like that is that he's just going to have to do it again at another daycare. Maybe he's not ready for care, but most parents don't have the luxery of taking their child our of care and going to work when mom is 'ready'. You should talk to mom and dad, get them play seperation games at home (hello, goodbye, peek a boo, hide and seek) He's old enough now that he CAN be seperated, he just needs to learn HOW. I honestly don't think that there is such thing a child not being 'ready' at this age, it's the parents who aren't ready.

It will happen. It just takes time. The kid isn't going to cry for the rest of his life. Just relax, put him in a seperate room when you feel like you're going to blow and put him in a highchair or playpen away from the other kids. Stick a soother in his mouth if you have to. My screamer had a soother for the first 2 months he was here. It was the only thing that made him feel safe. Now though, he never has it.

Good luck!