It is possible to make sure the children behave completely different for you than they do for their own parents. Be consistent with your rules all day every day and let them know there is no compromise. It takes practice and a lot of your energy but I do it every day and I rarely use any timeouts any more. Also, I keep them very busy.

The little boy I mentioned above is completely in charge of the family and I've told this to the Mom. She says 'I know' so what can I do? Nothing to help her, that's for sure. But this boy is good for me all day long because he knows my rules are non-negotiable. I have a 20 month old boy who is not listening right now and I'm going to be putting him in timeouts shortly it appears but I will do it all day every day until he realizes he absolutely cannot have his way at daycare, he has to behave properly.