In response to inspired by reggio. on kids wanting to make the right choices but not having the skills or resources.
I believe as the Bible states: children are all born evil. sounds rough but is true, think about it...they are from the beginning of life naturally selfish & manipulating. They dont want to make the right choices, they dont know what they are until we show them and we cant show them unless we correct their inherantly "wrong way of thinking". It is up to us to teach them the proper ways of life...i.e. thinking of others, treating others kind and fare. having respect, using manners, showing love. If we sit back and wait for it to develope naturally as they grow and their brains develope they will bend and twist in their own direction...if we quide them proper, punish when needed, love appropriately and show them how to be we will end up with a well raised child who will ultimately become a terrific individual later in life. But you have to be very proactive in catching the little "wrong thinking" before it becomes Big wrong thinking!