What to do, what to do...

[apples and bananas]

The minute he pee'd anywhere but the toilet he would've been gone. That's just not right. He's 6! I would expect that behaviour from a 2 year old learning to use the toilet. Nope... Not worth any amount of money to deal with that.

[Inspired by Reggio]

I am willing to work with almost any challenge a child might present over their time with me ~ as long as the CLIENT is working with me 110% towards the same goal and objective .... I took on an older child my first year in 'home childcare' who had been terminated from other programs ~ but there was no 'holding back' with either of us everything was laid on the table about the challenges that kid had, my thoughts on what the root problem was based on initial observation and what needed to occur both in my program and at home for that child to thrive and be able to 'stay on here'. Had that child until 6.6 years old and she was in school full time ... parents were AWESOME about stepping up and 'changing' practices that had led and encourage the behavior to thrive at home and therefore other programs ... aka diet, sleeping, consistent realistic expectations and consequences.

Sorry but if they were that indifferent at the beginning of the relationship and there was this much trouble already and based on the age of the child ....I am not one to 'quickly' terminate someone but what you've shared here would be grounds for me to make that 'adjustment' to quick band-aid approach of 'sorry but after a trial period of this month upon reflection of X's needs and the programs needs I am afraid we are not going to be a match for permanent care arrangement therefore effective X care will terminate' ... you decide if you want to give them notice or if you are just done with being hit in your own home!

[dragonlady3]

Another thought....and this should help speed him out of your day care. He hit you and dis-repected your home and food and other children. How likely is it that he will hit another child...and maybe injure him/her...and you will then potentially face the consequences from a very distressed family who does care for their child properly. Quite simply, your other DC children are more at risk than you, and legally, you are definitely at risk if this child hurts another child while in your care, especially now that you have acknowledged how very unpleasant he really is. Call the family, tell them your DC is a non-violent zone, and they must remove their son immediately...and save yourself and the other children a serious injury. Hope this helps.

[Starshine]

Unless you need the money so much that you're going to miss a rent/mortgage payment without him, I'd terminate immediately. The violence is reason enough to not give two weeks.