View Poll Results: Have you, or would you, if deemed necessary, spank your kid(s)?
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Euphoric !
Originally Posted by Starshine
I don't spank my own child, never have, and can't imagine doing it ever.
I understand this; but you've never been SOOO frustrated that it's entered your mind? And I guess we all have different definitions of spanking; for me it's a 'tap' on the bum.
Children are great imitators.
So give them something great to imitate.
~Anonymous~
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Euphoric !
IMO, nobody "has to" spank. I wasn't spanked, and I don't spank. If your child is a toddler and is doing something dangerous, a loud noise is just as effective. Just my opinion.
ETA: I also ask about discipline during interviews for daycare families, and I will not accept a family into care if they spank.
Last edited by Sandbox Sally; 08-01-2012 at 07:41 AM.
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Spanking has never even crossed my mind with my own child. It just doesn't factor into my thinking at all. I was spanked here and there as a child, nothing major but I fail to see any positive benefit to the action of hitting a child.
If children learn from us then I think we have to ask what they learn from us when we spank them. I certainly don't want my daughter thinking that something she had done has caused her to "deserve" a physical punishment. In my opinion if a child is old enough to understand then you explain consequences, if they are too young to understand then they are too young to be hit anyways.
I get that a tap on the hand isn't the same as a spanking, I am not trying to condem anyone, I just personally don't get it. I don't have to make a conscious effort not to spank, it literally just doesn't enter my mind at all.
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Euphoric !
It's an interesting debate for sure; not that I am being an advocate for any form of physical punishment (tap on the hand or whatever)...but it could be argued that a loud voice (yelling) is just as damaging? It's all about what choices you make for your family, your children. I can honestly say that none of my children have ever been spanked in any way whatsoever..but boy it was a huge challenge with my last son (now 3) to get him not to hit (go figure?!). And I admit it; I would get so frustrated a spank of the bum did enter my mind...just didn't go there.
Children are great imitators.
So give them something great to imitate.
~Anonymous~
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This is a SUPER sensitive issue for me. I don't see ANY REASON to spank EVER! All it teaches is that it is OK to hit when they are upset and it teaches them aggression. I don't see a difference in slapping them in the bum or slapping them in the face. I think it should be outlawed and doesn't help the situation AT ALL. All it does is create fear for pain and aggression, rather than fear for ACTUAL consequences like time outs and so forth. There have been studies done that link spanking to low self esteem, anger issues and so forth. IMO there is NEVER good and appropriate time to spank. I remember being spanked when I was young, and I remember felling very violated and uncomfortable - expecially when it's done in front of the other kids. I'm sorry if I've upset anyone, but I don't see a reason for it and I think spanking is wrong.
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Huh, I thought spanking was illegal....I just looked it up and I was wrong, 24 countries have criminalized spanking and Canada is not one of them; I have to say I am surprised!
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I will be honest. When I was pregnant, I swore I would never spank. 4 years later, I have spanked my daughter on occasion. She is, to put it mildly, a very difficult child to discipline. She is 12 yo in a 4 yo body, basically. Spanking has made a huge difference in her behavior, and for the better. However, it is a last resort when dealing with her and a "spank" is a hard tap on the bum, never with a belt or anything of that nature. That is wrong IMO.
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Judy, I would really love to have a link to the study you are referring to! This is an interesting and sensitive debate to have.
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Euphoric !
Originally Posted by Dreamalittledream
It's an interesting debate for sure; not that I am being an advocate for any form of physical punishment (tap on the hand or whatever)...but it could be argued that a loud voice (yelling) is just as damaging? It's all about what choices you make for your family, your children. I can honestly say that none of my children have ever been spanked in any way whatsoever..but boy it was a huge challenge with my last son (now 3) to get him not to hit (go figure?!). And I admit it; I would get so frustrated a spank of the bum did enter my mind...just didn't go there.
I hope you didn't imply from my post that I am a yeller. When I said loud voice, I mean more of an "OH!! and then in a quieter voice, ohhhh no, ohhhhh dear that is scary...that hurts <insertnamehere>." I can't write it down properly....but it startles instead of shames or scares. In my opinion, this is far better than physically hitting a child.
Frustration is frustration. No parent, no matter what end of spanking debate you're on, should hit out of anger. That's abuse.
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Expansive...
Originally Posted by kangaroomama
Judy, I would really love to have a link to the study you are referring to! This is an interesting and sensitive debate to have.
You can google it. It's actually the study they did back in 2003 (I think that was the year) when the spanking issue went to the Supreme Court of Canada. About half of Canadians think that parents should have the right to spank their own kids. And another 31% of the population think that caretakers should also have the right to spank.
Just google it. I don't have it bookmarked or I would just link you to it.
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