This is a SUPER sensitive issue for me. I don't see ANY REASON to spank EVER! All it teaches is that it is OK to hit when they are upset and it teaches them aggression. I don't see a difference in slapping them in the bum or slapping them in the face. I think it should be outlawed and doesn't help the situation AT ALL. All it does is create fear for pain and aggression, rather than fear for ACTUAL consequences like time outs and so forth. There have been studies done that link spanking to low self esteem, anger issues and so forth. IMO there is NEVER good and appropriate time to spank. I remember being spanked when I was young, and I remember felling very violated and uncomfortable - expecially when it's done in front of the other kids. I'm sorry if I've upset anyone, but I don't see a reason for it and I think spanking is wrong.