Momof4: I absolutely agree that this is how it should be, and I plan to return the favour to others starting out. I'm just so deeply touched, because the person recommending me went out of her way to show me this kindness, and we haven't even met yet. (We are having dinner together next week though!) She read my posts here, and probably my ad, and figured out that we have similar philosophies. The more we correspond, the more we discover this to be true and we have mutual acquaintances, but it was still a huge surprise to me. I love this board!