I am dealing with the EXACT same thing with one of my dhb's. He was 2 in April and basically does the same things. I have put up with it for a year now, thinking things would get better and they haven't. He is very babied at home and it's causing me a lot of frustration. I've talked to parents and they say they make him eat, clean up, etc on his own but I just don't see it. He still has a bottle at home, not here. He still goes in a baby swing at home, not here. He doesn't wear shoes at home and gets carried around. Here he wears shoes and doesn't get carried. But his overall attitude sucks and he's just a child that I don't like much. His parents are awesome as far as everything goes with me but I don't know how much more I can take of the kid. It's paying the bills and all but it's just draining on my sanity. I'm trying to find a way to terminate but don't know if I can bring myself to do it after dealing with this for so long. It's not like something just all of a sudden happened ... it's always been like this.