Looking for mothers and fathers who are concerned about a home daycare provider....

[Bugaboo]

Darasmommy- do read back what you type before you send it or are you normally one of those people who speaks before they think? I am truly scared for your child if she is in care right now. You have just insulted her care giver whom I pray will never read what you wrote. You have just risked the safety of your child and all the other children in her day care arrangement by infuriated, hurting, and insulting her provider. This will effect your child's day. The provider will not be working with her full steam as she will be thinking about your horrible words to describe the very people who raise your child when you go to work. I hope and pray today your provider doesn't snap.

Also, I am not working today therefore children in my care are not affected by what I am doing with my free time. Furthermore check the time posts on several of these posts, several of them are in the afternoon during nap time when the providers are taking a much deserved rest.

[sunnydays]

I have to say, considering your posts, and your obvious lack of respect for our profession and all the hard work and dedication it takes for us to be the excellent daycare providers I KNOW the majority of us are, I am certainly also VERY glad I am not "watching" your baby! And may I never have someone so lacking in respect set foot though my doors because let me tell you, this is a hard job and an extremely important job that we do. I hope that you don't treat your own daycare provider with such contempt!

Dear OP, I'd be concerned with many of the "daycare providers" that post here. Most seem in it for the money...not many appear to actually care about quality child care or families....they just want to get paid to sit at home. I'm also concerned for the gang of babysitters that hang out at my local park and gab and don;t watch the children they get paid to care for....their dc kids ask ME to push them on swings because they cant get off their lazy butts to play with the kids that, again, they get paid to take care of!! I cannot believe the things I read here. Unbelievable, and glad these women do NOT "watch" my baby!

[mimi]

Wow, there is medication for what you suffer from darasmommy. I sincerely and strongly suggest you speak to a medical proffessional regarding your anger issues. It is one thing to have a different opinion, it happens all the time on this forum, however the ferocity with which you write your comments is a huge red flag to your troubled state of mind. To come on an "anonymous" forum and spew your character assisinations of the daycare provider community is a bullying and cowardly tactic. Please refrain from visiting here again unless you have something positively productive to say. Good luck to you.

[dodge__driver11]

Just an FYI--even though I am not letting this "darasmommy" get to me.. I am not your nanny, and I choose who I welcome into my program.

[sunnydays]

My biggest question is "why is Darasmommy on this forum at all?" I mean, I think it is wonderful that parents take the time to come on here and learn what life is like from a daycare providers perspective to help them understand more and therefore gain more respect for us, but why come on and just start responding to posts in such a hateful manner? Why come on a daycare providers forum at all if she hates us all so much? Why not spend the time with her"more important things" that she mentioned? Does she think she will cause any of us to actually doubt our own self-worth for a second? WE know that what we do most people wouldn't do for a million dollar pay-check let alone the small pay we take home. WE know that we do a fantastic job despite the low pay. WE know we do it because we care and because we love what we do.

[dodge__driver11]

Yeah...I was miffed before, but honestly...she's looking for a reason to stir shit up, and I am finally in a place where I am gaining confidence in me and my business, so I choose to walk away, but at the same time telling her what I think.

[mamabear]

I don't post much on here but had to ask a question...everyone who has a job works because they need the money. Why is it then that us providers are always accused of only being in it for the money? Also, why aren't WE allowed to bitch and complain once in awhile? I don't have co workers to chat with on my break so if I choose to vent on an online forum why does that make me unhappy and disgruntled? Everyone else gets to whine about their jobs but when we do it we are supposed to find a new line of work....such an unfair double standard.

[Inspired by Reggio]

I don't post much on here but had to ask a question...everyone who has a job works because they need the money. Why is it then that us providers are always accused of only being in it for the money? Also, why aren't WE allowed to bitch and complain once in awhile? I don't have co workers to chat with on my break so if I choose to vent on an online forum why does that make me unhappy and disgruntled? Everyone else gets to whine about their jobs but when we do it we are supposed to find a new line of work....such an unfair double standard.

Yup ~ and society wonders why there is a shortage of quality childcare in the province or across Canada for that matter cause honestly if there was ALL THIS MONEY in it for SO LITTLE WORK every bloody entrepreneur looking to make a quick buck would be opening up childcare centres ~ there would be options out the wazoo for parents seeking childcare .... but WHY than such a shortage???


Cause the reality is there is this double standard of expected professionalism, undying dedication to the children above your own needs as a human being, expectation to always have smiles and rainbows coming out your arse all day long despite the emotionally and physically demanding nature of raising children and often with out the support and resources you need to help them thrive cause parents are working 'against' you cause they do not have the full understanding of child development and what children NEED and are parenting based on what is easy in the MOMENT verses the long term investment of skill building to allow children to thrive through all stages of life! And than in addition to all those expectations is the expectation to work 12 plus hours a day for basically less than minimum wage after expenses all without taking a break or going pee or god forbid sitting down at the park for a few minutes in a 12 hour day and just letting kids be 'kids' or coming online on your lunch hour or break and seeking support for a challenging behavior or client you might have without being judged as lazy or shirking your 'job' ....all the while having to listen to parents complain about how 'expense childcare is' when in reality they pay less than $3 an hour for it in most cities but do not think twice about $5 for a latte that takes 3 minutes to make and 10 minutes to drink or will spend $20 to go see a two hour movie or pay $200 for a tattoo .... and than on top of ALL of that you have to deal with unrealistic expectation of parents who want their child to be doing all these activities and formal 'academics' during the day but than get pissy if their kid comes with a bit of paint on their new Ralph Lauren top or the kid gets sick and some how that is 'the providers fault' cause lord knows they could not have picked up that germ at the grocery store or church on Sunday or the one of dozens of extra curricular things kids get carted around to these days ... there is a total lack of VALUE about what is done in the early years and very little resources and support given to the childcare industry in general but specifically lacking is home childcare and when we try to create our own support network and access to resources and ideas sharing with peers we get blasted for that as well .... so no surprise it is the quickest industry to burn out and the hardest one to have people spend their entire career in and people like Darasmommy who come onto forums with their paint them all with one brush as lazy and incompetent and someone who has obviously never walked a day in the shoes of someone who actually does this job can take a nice deep bow for being the ROOT cause of that shortage of childcare options .... cause people get so very tired ot 'trying' only to have to deal with this constant double standard where you are damned if you do and damned if you do not resulting in unattainable expectations society has for childcare providers and people deciding it is just easy to take a job where you can say 'Do you want fries with that'!

[jodaycare]

If this person has a daycare provider for her "baby", I feel incredibly sorry for her. I could never work with someone like that and having read what she thinks about home daycare providers I am very grateful for the wonderful parents that I deal with with everyday. What a negative person!!!!

[Momof4]

Yes, this is a public site. Yes, parents can view what childcare providers post here. I am not ashamed to admit that I'm completely honest on this site. I want to help other new home childcare providers to learn what I learned the hard way with parents who made me angry and treated me badly. I want to help them with things I've learned about caring for other people's children as opposed to raising my own children. There is a big difference. I want to let them know that a contract and rules and regulations are important for us.

However, I don't know if you darasmommy are a person who had a horrible experience with a 'babysitter' as you claim or if you are a 15 year old idiot or a 75 year old senile person, but you came on this website and posted very arrogant, abusive, disgusting posts against us and that is just wrong and uncool and not called for!!! I will not be responding to you any more and I suggest you be banned from this site.