I hate potty training!!

[Littledragon]

I agree with the pull up thing. That's why I stopped putting on his pull ups. But he NEVER asks to go the bathroom and I often do a good job of remembering. But one day he peed on my COUCH, and another day, he peed on my son's blankie. He's emabarrassed to use the potty and I think it's something to do at home.

I'm a little frustrated that she gave up because now I feel like if he's not being potty trained, she's going to blame me because, as someone said, I sort of took the bull by the horns and said, this is what we're going to do. But I honestly didn't think she would give up. She just doesn't seem interested at all. I don't really want to say anything, or do anything. I think I will just continue doing what I'm doing here, but he'll be wearing pull ups (becasue my husband FLIPPED out about the couch) and I'm not going to stress over it. Maybe we'll talk about it again in the future. I just feel like since he's here 75% of his waking hours, it would be best for me to do most of the work. But I can't do it, if he's going to get away with it at home. They don't make the effort at home, I'm not making it here.

[Toregone]

On the reverse to the really too old kids not being potty trained yet do you have any experiences with children too young to be trained? I recently had an interview with the parents of a 13 month old who they swore was "almost trained" but the last DCP hadn't kept it up.. meanwhile he wasn't walking without help. Tell me how can a barely talking, not walking infant be potty trained?

I have another in care right now that is 20 mos. His mom says he shows signs at home, asks to go pee and poo but meanwhile at my house he doesn't do anything of that. I think mom may be hoping he trains really soon as she's pregnant with #2.

[kidlove]

wow toregone, you may want to send that one in to the gynes book of world records, "potty training before walking" thats freekin amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!
20 mo. is def more believable. My daughter was trained at 23 months, with alot of reminding and assistance from me and grama. and my son was almost 2.5 yrs old. All my kids in the daycare have been before 3 if I have trained with help from parents. I did have the one who started with me 3.5 yrs old and wasnt trained until almost 4.5 but IMO it was because mom and dad didnt care either way. makes a dif when the parents could give a crud less, makes the kid not care also.

[Momof4]

I don't think 2 years or 3 years old is old enough to push hard for toilet training. By 4 years old they should be there, especially before school. But all children learn at different paces and I agree that it is the PARENT'S JOB, we are the assistants. And we definitely can't make the decisions, that's also the parent's job.

[kidlove]

That is just it!!!! If THEY dont make the effort at home, you are wasting your time making the effort there. you know what though? kids are really smart, just keep telling him to ask mom and dad at home and he can bug them until they do it!!

[DCP_But_Momma_1st]

as for early training...I had a friend who serioulsy sat her daughter on the potty (more like held her up on it) from 6 months until she could sit on it herself. She was fully trained by 15 months. It was rediculous. Not the norm obviously and I couldn't actually believe she would go pee and poo at that age on the toilet but sure enough I saw it with my own two eyes. I have never and will never tell a daycare family that one or come a year and a half I will have kids showing up in undies LOL

[Mamma_Mia]

I had a friend who serioulsy sat her daughter on the potty (more like held her up on it) from 6 months until she could sit on it herself. She was fully trained by 15 months. It was rediculous. Not the norm obviously and I couldn't actually believe she would go pee and poo at that age on the toilet but sure enough I saw it with my own two eyes.

ditto! me too!

[playfelt]

It's funny when I hear people talking about the age for potty training. All of my kids - well except for my special needs child who is still not trained at 19 years old and likely never will be - but all were trained by 2 and that was the norm back then. Yes starting to use the potty chair on your first birthday was normal. Disposable diapers stopped at size 4 - there was no need for anything bigger and pullups or night diapers didn't exist. Very few kids were not trained. But then kids ate earlier, used cups, used utensils, chewed food, etc a lot earlier too.

[Mamma_Mia]

It's funny when I hear people talking about the age for potty training. All of my kids - well except for my special needs child who is still not trained at 19 years old and likely never will be - but all were trained by 2 and that was the norm back then. Yes starting to use the potty chair on your first birthday was normal. Disposable diapers stopped at size 4 - there was no need for anything bigger and pullups or night diapers didn't exist. Very few kids were not trained. But then kids ate earlier, used cups, used utensils, chewed food, etc a lot earlier too.

I think I'm the age of you kids (if I remember correctly from the "kids" post) but my mom says the same thing. I was fully potty trained buy the time my 3rd cousin was born and I turned 2 in March she was born in May....they started us at 1....AND the pottys "back then" according to my mom had a tray type thing that would hold the child in! LOL I was shocked!

I asked "so mom you'd lock me into a poty and I had no choice but to learn?" she replies "you better believe it"! I get comments from both familes that DD is 2.5 and not trained yet. She was doing great when we tried a few months back (she wanted to copy the other dc children) but after doing very well she regressed.....I decided to wait for more SIGNS that she's ready. We focused on 'big girl bed' instead which she did amazingly....no rails right away and 2 months in no fall offs!

NOW - in the last 2 weeks she's been telling me when's she's peed and has woken up from overnight bone dry....also whenever we're home (with no distractions) she'll tell me when she has poop.. LISTEN to this..she last night (3 time in 2 weeks) went on her own to go get her change mat, wipes case & diaper, brought it to me and said "mamma poo-poo". I didn't even know she "went". So.....I think we may try again soon.

[Littledragon]

It's funny when I hear people talking about the age for potty training. All of my kids - well except for my special needs child who is still not trained at 19 years old and likely never will be - but all were trained by 2 and that was the norm back then. Yes starting to use the potty chair on your first birthday was normal. Disposable diapers stopped at size 4 - there was no need for anything bigger and pullups or night diapers didn't exist. Very few kids were not trained. But then kids ate earlier, used cups, used utensils, chewed food, etc a lot earlier too.

I totally agree. I am kind of old fashioned when it comes to raising my son. He is "expected" to do things a lot younger than some other kids I know. He is 13 months and uses a spoon and a fork, he was eating finger foods at 8 months, and 100% feeding himself (minus pureed foods like yogurt and apple sauce) by the time he was 10 months and I WILL have him potty trained by the time he is 2, if not earlier. IMO a 3 year old who is not potty trained is selfishness on the parents part (I know, I'm going to get sh*t for that). There is no reason why a child should not be trained as soon as possible. And I do believe in pushing. I believe in waiting until a child is ready, but a child doesn't know he or she is ready until they have been guided. They don't understand these things. When I sleep trained my son, it was A LOT of guidance and little bit of him being ready. And, I beleive that the sooner you do it, the more successful you will be. Once they get to 2.5-3, they know too much and are manipulative. They know that if they don't want to, there are ways to get out of it. At 2, they are eager to please. JMO. When a kid starts hiding in a corner to pee or poo (usually starts around 18 months-2) then it's time to start. I think kids these days are WAY over indulged and parents have really HIGH expectations (he'll let me know when he's ready). No he won't! Because he doesn't even know what you're expecting him to do! We need to go back to the way our parents were raised (minus the alcohol and emotional abuse that was "acceptable" back then lol). Again, JMO