I hear you there!!! although in a perfect world it would be grand to pick the perfect families for us, the bottom line is 1. sometimes you have to take the "best" you can find. and 2. sometimes when you think you have a good one, you later learn they know how to "blow smoke" really well. Either way, sure is nice to at least meet at some kind of middle ground with most parents. Not sure tho, I'll let you know if my opinion changes after my "nitrate free" kids start. Mom is def. packing their food.