Ok! I REALLY need some advice

[treeholm]

Hi there,
I'm only starting in September, so I can't give you any advice really, but I did want to send a hug. I'm sure this is making you crazy.
As the grandmother of a 3.5 year old, and a Mom who raised three children (including two very busy boys) I do think that the secret with the 4-year old is to find something that motivates him. Rewards only work when the child feels that the value of the reward exceeds whatever value his current inappropriate behaviour has. I don't doubt that some of these wise and experienced women will have more tangible advice for you.
Diane