Ok! I REALLY need some advice

[kidlove]

after all that, i continue to read your post and realize: it really could also just be a case of being "tested" ALL kids especially the STINKERS! will test you to see how far they can push. DON'T let them push AT ALL. put your foot down fast, dont be sweet because they are new, or you think they might not be old enough to fully understand, all kids by the age of 2 are smart enough to take direct orders and understand right from wrong. they jump on your couch, you tell them to sit, "we don't jump on miss ______'s furniture"...they do it again, you grab them quickly and remove them from the couch, get down to their level and say clearly, "I asked you not to jump on my couch, you can't listen so sit on the floor please". Do it as much as you have to until it sinks in...YOU ARE THE BOSS, NOT THEM!!!! I do this, I am firm on the kids, i have solid rules and they love me anyway...they just know when "I mean business!"