Agreed, it sounds like this child has a lot of eating quirks, but at 3 he or she should be feeding themselves entirely. My 3 yrs olds are completely able to use a fork and spoon properly and drink out of regular cups. I have a 2 yrs old who tries to get me to feed him every single day, but I always say "no way jose!", put the fork in his hand and guide him towards the food.