Grrr I'm so mad at myself...lesson learned! Plus, awkward situation.

[daycarewhisperer]

They just don't want to give you the money. They want enough time in between all these words and when they see or talk to you to have it be water under the bridge. If you sent them an email and said... "you know I was thinking that since she never ended up coming that you guys shouldn't have to pay for care you didn't receive" you would get an INSTANT response from them saying "oh thanks... we feel bad but we just couldn't come up with it" or something like that. If you don't give them those kinds of words they aren't going to communicate with you until they MUST.

You have learned that having your care as an option is what they were after. They had you on the hook in case they needed it and they got that consideration for free. Live and learn that words are free and money is money. Next time have them do money instead of words. The only words you need are written words where they agree to the money. Any other words will land you with a whole lot of heartache.

[Other Mummy]

Sad how you learn how people are really like. I agree with kidlove, just be friendly and keep bringing up payment. This lets them know that you are not forgetting their little "misdeed". At this point its more of a principal than the actual dollar amount.

Sadly, I learned this lessen as well, only it was with a friend I grew up with and went to school with. Over a few measly dollars...really people???