OOOOOOHHHH! I have been there!!!!! Feel for you so much! First of all, you need to decide what you want to do! and what is the BEST choice for your family. In my case, although my husband hated the daycare being in the house and the kids "running" our personal space from sun up to sun down, I also knew....it was the BEST choice for me and for our kids! I could stay home and take care of home and I could stay home with my kids. (thats what I wanted and nothing would change that) however, I had to find a way to make it work for the others in the fam too. The first thing I really think you need to do is, shorten your day, I started at 6am-6:30pm when I opened....you will burn out fast that way! YOU MAY BE ALOT LIKE ME, A PEOPLE PLEASER! you want to please everyone and will have a hard time trying because they all need something different. Lower your hours, cut back on "nasty" kids....they will only make things tough for you, and that will reflect on your personal family life as well. Consider moving a playroom downstairs, if not too expensive....its a great idea. even if you use the upstairs all day and about an hour before your hubby is to get home, have the house clean and tidy, throw some dinner in the oven and then go sown to the playroom for the last bit of the day until pickup. that way when hubby gets home he has his own space and supper is on the way, house is clean and wife is making money...he will have nothing to complain about. Dont give up on what you want just because others arent satisfied, if in home care is what you want...find a way to make it work!!!! Good Luck!