Quote Originally Posted by kidlove View Post
I should add, if you literally feed the crier like 20 minutes before the others (assuming you have lunch then nap) and lay him down to cry for a bit while the others are eating and getting ready for nap, hopefully that will be enough time for him to fall asleep.
I agree with this. With my own son, I wasn't too keen on the crying out thing but with kids that aren't mine, and the fact that they're not on a schedule at home making it 100 times more difficult to get them on a schedule, I am pro-crying it out. I would do this. For the first week, I would put them both in the same room, and sit in a chair or whatever, playing on your phone or something, so you're not paying attention to them so they know you're there. But once they get comfortable, I would start letting them cry.

And I would DEMAND (as much as I hate that word) that mom and dad try to match your schedule at home on the weekends. Once the schedule is fixed and they know what to expect at daycare, having a weekend of "freedom" wouldn't be detrimental, but until they're on a schedule, mom and dad need to follow yours to a T. If they complain, let them know that if they had prepared for this in advance, it wouldn't be such a big deal. I have a 2 year old who's schedule was to wake up at 10am, nap at 4pm and bed by midnight!! can you believe it!! I asked mom and dad in the interview if he napped, and they said yes, but I thought that - like normal people - he napped in the early afternoon. I sent home a letter stating that unless he matched out schedule, I couldn't continue care. They were more than willing to comply. Mostly because they were sick of not having any time alone because the kid had their schedule.