Dont feel bad about the freak control of keeping the kid clean, I think most of us have been there a time or two! I hada crazy Mom who was just like that, wouldnt have known that when I first met her though! I came to the conclusion thats how she "got" her nice, softspoken husband also...disception!!! (sp) After having her son with me for a while, she started turning "freak" (things didnt end well) ! she would say crazy stuff like, please keep ALL his "out fits" together, one day I changed his pants because they got dirty at lunch but didnt bother changing the shirt because it was clean, well, ...she keeps ALL "outfits" matching and doesnt mix them!! la tee da!! what a freak! she also brought me inside shoes, "these are hush puppies, his grampa bought them for like 50$ they are really expensive, please dont have him wear these outside" she bought a pair of sh**! shoes! at walmart for his to walk outside in, and provided me with oxiclean spray to spray and scrup the hush puppies if I forgot and brought those ones out. She also NEVER let me keep anything, even though it IS my contract to keep a cubby with extra clothes, diapers and wipes. CONTROL FREAK!!! She is the Mom who insisted his wipes couldnt be communal like all the other kids because his wipes are "special" she traveled 4 hours south to buy them. She asked me not to put any salt or butter on ANY of his food because SHE retains salt and "he may also". FREAK! the kicker was when SHE decided to pay monthly instead of every two weeks (because it worked better for her!) and when her month pay was due she became about 4 days delinquent so I called her with a notice and a 25$ late fee, she SCREAMED at me, swore at me in my home and said "I thought we were friends" I said, "no, we are not, this is a business relationship!" she told me she would take her kid somewhere else.....I said, WEW! O.K.! not gonna argue there, what a relief, love it when the asses decide to go on their own, so much easier for me. I have NEVER bent over so far to please a parent before, sometimes a psycho is a psycho is a psycho is a psycho! and theres nothing you can do about it, cut your loses with this one, and soon.!!!!!!!!! by the way two years later and I find out from other daycare parents (who work with her) she is STILL trying to get them to leave my care!!!!!!!! crazy FREAK!