Vent/advice Oh the Drama!!

[kidlove]

adoption is a hard one also because you dont always have the childs genetic background which is also "key" in helping problem solve with certain issues. Alot of times, once I get to know the parents (personality and goofy traits) I can understand the child better. In an adoption situation you dont know where the child came from, its like a missing puzzle piece! Who knows, she could have been neglected (causing delays or "depression") she could have been abused. How long have these parents had her? sence early infancy? or later?

[Sandbox Sally]

I have sensory issues. They're manageable most of the time, but most definitely other things can exacerbate these problems.

If things are loud, meaning too many different noises happening at once, I can feel overwhelmed and cranky. When I am overwhelmed and cranky, even the softest touch can send me reeling. I am talking about a hand on the shoulder, or a soft touch to the arm from DH. My instant response is to either burst into tears or hit him in rage. I have read that these overload moments are not unique to me, but rather fairly common to those with sensory triggers.

If this little girl is at all sensory sensitive, and suddenly she is hearing ALL THE THINGS, it could very likely be overwhelming for her, and as we all know, toddlers and preschoolers especially, are prone to not knowing exactly how to deal with overwhelming emotions.

Just my .02

I think you're awesome for being patient with her, and wanting to understand the root of her behaviour. I also think that what I wrote above is worth mentioning to her exhausted mom.

Also, I know you likely know this, but Sensory Processing Disorder or any type of sensory issues can be linked with being on the Autism Spectrum, but the two can also be completely unrelated.

[Dreamalittledream]

I have sensory issues. They're manageable most of the time, but most definitely other things can exacerbate these problems.

If things are loud, meaning too many different noises happening at once, I can feel overwhelmed and cranky. When I am overwhelmed and cranky, even the softest touch can send me reeling. I am talking about a hand on the shoulder, or a soft touch to the arm from DH. My instant response is to either burst into tears or hit him in rage. I have read that these overload moments are not unique to me, but rather fairly common to those with sensory triggers.

If this little girl is at all sensory sensitive, and suddenly she is hearing ALL THE THINGS, it could very likely be overwhelming for her, and as we all know, toddlers and preschoolers especially, are prone to not knowing exactly how to deal with overwhelming emotions.

Just my .02
I think you're awesome for being patient with her, and wanting to understand the root of her behaviour. I also think that what I wrote above is worth mentioning to her exhausted mom.

Also, I know you likely know this, but Sensory Processing Disorder or any type of sensory issues can be linked with being on the Autism Spectrum, but the two can also be completely unrelated.

I can't thank you enough for sharing that. Kind of gives me a glimpse into what she is going through?

[Sandbox Sally]

You're so welcome. It's so hard to explain to people that don't get that way, but it sounds like you get it. You're an awesome provider, Dream. Be proud.

[kidlove]

My son is a little ADHD, we dont tell him that all the time, he may have heard the phrase a time or two, but we dont sit him down and say "you are special because you have ADHD" we dont dwell on it because we dont ever want him to think there is "any" reason he cant do something or is "different" from any other child his age. not to mention I dont believe anyone (child or adult) should mark themselves with a label or disability (can create a "sorry for self" mentality). Is raising him more difficult than other kids? yes. Is he more difficult than all kids? no. He struggles in school and life will always be a bit more of a challenge for him, as it is for MANY people with differences. The way I see it is, you teach a child to adapt to the world, because the world is NOT ALWAYS going to adapt to them, AND dont ever allow a child to expect people to make "special" circumstances just for them. Granted: if a child is blind of course they need brale. And if the ADHD is SEVERE they may need meds, but if they have one leg shorter than the other, encourage them to play football, dont allow them to sit in self pity. My son came home the other day and asked if he could have "earmuffs" to do his school work because he cant concentrate with noise around. (I am exactly the same-apple didnt fall far!) I thought for a minute and seriously almost gave in to the idea but....what does that help him overcome? nothing. it's just a bandaid another crutch to hold him up. He WILL overcome all his obstacles in life, its going to continue to be a bumpy road but the one thing I am sure of, is he will grow up to be stronger than the average man because he has more to overcome than the average child. What doesnt kill us only makes us stronger, this little girl is much better off if treated as any ordinary kid than she would be if catered to and treated special because she has hearing issues or was adopted. Just my opinion.