adoption is a hard one also because you dont always have the childs genetic background which is also "key" in helping problem solve with certain issues. Alot of times, once I get to know the parents (personality and goofy traits) I can understand the child better. In an adoption situation you dont know where the child came from, its like a missing puzzle piece! Who knows, she could have been neglected (causing delays or "depression") she could have been abused. How long have these parents had her? sence early infancy? or later?