My son is a little ADHD, we dont tell him that all the time, he may have heard the phrase a time or two, but we dont sit him down and say "you are special because you have ADHD" we dont dwell on it because we dont ever want him to think there is "any" reason he cant do something or is "different" from any other child his age. not to mention I dont believe anyone (child or adult) should mark themselves with a label or disability (can create a "sorry for self" mentality). Is raising him more difficult than other kids? yes. Is he more difficult than all kids? no. He struggles in school and life will always be a bit more of a challenge for him, as it is for MANY people with differences. The way I see it is, you teach a child to adapt to the world, because the world is NOT ALWAYS going to adapt to them, AND dont ever allow a child to expect people to make "special" circumstances just for them. Granted: if a child is blind of course they need brale. And if the ADHD is SEVERE they may need meds, but if they have one leg shorter than the other, encourage them to play football, dont allow them to sit in self pity. My son came home the other day and asked if he could have "earmuffs" to do his school work because he cant concentrate with noise around. (I am exactly the same-apple didnt fall far!) I thought for a minute and seriously almost gave in to the idea but....what does that help him overcome? nothing. it's just a bandaid another crutch to hold him up. He WILL overcome all his obstacles in life, its going to continue to be a bumpy road but the one thing I am sure of, is he will grow up to be stronger than the average man because he has more to overcome than the average child. What doesnt kill us only makes us stronger, this little girl is much better off if treated as any ordinary kid than she would be if catered to and treated special because she has hearing issues or was adopted. Just my opinion.