I finally terminated them but it did not end on good terms

[apples and bananas]

OH wow! I can't believe you had to go through that. Unreal how people are. She's a horrible person. Good for you to have them out of your life. Everything she demanded was ridiculous. People like that should have a nanny, not a daycare provider. Get an employee if you want to treat someone like crap!

I terminated a long time pain in the XXX a month ago. It felt so good! She wrote me a nasty email but I ignored it. Then she had the nerve to text me this past weekend and ask me if I'd take her son back. Seriously? People are crazy!

[Daycare123]

That is crazy! I am so sorry you had to deal with such abuse! I would try not to spend anymore time or energy on this horrible woman!

[Mamma_Mia]

Holy Cow! I'd (sadly) go to the next level if someone told me to shut up! Seriously she would have had a black eye....professional or not, Fu*k Off B!tch!!

I'm sorry you've had to go through that! Stay strong and be thankful she's gone.

[Littledragon]

Thanks ladies for all the words! The support I receive on this board is priceless. My husband told me to not allow this woman to rent any more space in brain but I'm still seething. It's the sentence where she told me to next time do my job that got me over the edge. And then the way she spoke to me on the phone...

The reason why she wanted to take me to court was because since they started, I changed my policies. There's a section on misconduct - that I promise to always remain professional however, if there is ever a time where I am feeling arrassed, abused or confronted in my own home, the parent will be terminated immediately and they forfeit any deposit or payment that have already made. UNFORTUNATELY, it wasn't on her contract, which I didn't realize. So, my husband paid the money but because he's such a smarty pants, left it open to my being able to take action if she contacts me again.

I am really sad over this. I was worried about telling my kids, and they honestly didn't care. I said "I'm sad that he's gone, are you?" I wanted them feel like it was OK to be sad. But they said no and moved on. But I was almost in tears lol. This kid wasn't here long and I know I will find others, but maybe it's just the circumstances. It's just sad that all this had to happen. When we were on the phone, I was so upset and frazzled I called her a mean person lol imagine! A grown woman calling someone else mean, but she didn't like it lol apparently she doesn't like being called mean. She's probably been called mean before. I don't know how her husband puts up with her.

Oh well, onward and upward, right?

[jec]

Oh well, onward and upward, right?

Good for you ~ she is the one who was unprofessional as she apparently she thought she had the upper hand since she seemed to have a history of speaking down to you.
You were way nicer than I would have been and I bet...it won't take long for her next provider to feel the sting that you did. She sounds like she just isn't a nice person and will treat the next provider the same. Hopefully that provider asks where her little one was and calls you for a reference on her!!! Here's a perfect example of why I'm always nervous about taking someone one who left another daycare.

Good luck in filling the spot- you did the right thing

[Littledragon]

Good for you ~ she is the one who was unprofessional as she apparently she thought she had the upper hand since she seemed to have a history of speaking down to you.
You were way nicer than I would have been and I bet...it won't take long for her next provider to feel the sting that you did. She sounds like she just isn't a nice person and will treat the next provider the same. Hopefully that provider asks where her little one was and calls you for a reference on her!!! Here's a perfect example of why I'm always nervous about taking someone one who left another daycare.

Good luck in filling the spot- you did the right thing

There won't be another provider. The reason why I was toying on keeping them was because she is moving back to Asia at the end of the month. Her contract doesn't end until the end of the month, so needed care until the 28th. Now, she's left with nothing. She screwed herself, in the end. And that's what makes this SO satisfying. She has to deal with the fact that her and her family are completely screwed for care for the next three weeks. I doubt there will be any way she'd find daycare knowing she is leaving. Unless she lies, which she did to me. But I prefer to think she screwed and husband (who I really liked) is really mad at her. lol I know, I'm sad. But that little but makes me feel better. LOL

[jec]

Karma eh!! She is getting what she gave out!
It sounds as though you turned a blind eye more than once to a comment and or policy that she broke. I'm learning to be firm on policies and building up the back bone. At the end of the day we are working with families and kids and that plays on our heart stings. You should feel satisfaction - she really had this coming speaking to you like that was not called for

[Crayola kiddies]

I thought she was just going for two months on holidays ?

[kidlove]

ok so the plot thickens.......she is miserable because perhaps there is a separation or divorce in the works, maybe she hates this country and has been homesick. There is always a reason for a persons unhappiness. Too bad she has to throw it on everyone else though.

[Littledragon]

Sorry!!! Mis-information. Yes, vacation for 2 months, but I have it in my head that she's not coming back. The husband actually told me he was excited for them to go, that he was looking forward to some freedom - now I see why. They seem to communicate very well, but I don't think they get along. He was REALLY nice to me, and was constantly undermining her to me - telling me she was rude and confrontational and that she shouldn't have said a lot of the things she said. I really don't think she will be coming back. Especially because she won't have a job.

I feel a lot better about this whole situation now. I am glad I let her go and I was the one to pull the plug. I have a new part timer starting on Monday and an after school kid starting in a few weeks so I'm good

Life really does throw you some curve balls sometimes. I prayed the other night for guidance because I was feeling so low and wasn't sure I could continue. The idea of having to find another full timer was so daunting. But now, I have a little girl coming three days a week, and a 7 year old coming after school. These two amount to the full day fees, however, for two days during the week I only have my son and two other kids. So now, I'm less stressed in the day and we can actually go out and DO stuff!!