Parents are dumb!! [Long]

[Mamma_Mia]

I don't mean to speak for you Mamma, but I think you meant that this woman was acting as if she was your boss, not that she IS your boss, correct?

Yes Anger doesn't let me think clearly.

[kidlove]

OH MY GOSH! ALL CAPS FOR THE 'ANGER' THIS GIVES ME!!!!! HA HA
REALLY?.......I HAVE THIS ON A REGULAR BASIS WITH "NEW PARENTS" THEY KNOW NOTHING!!!!!!!
AND TRY TO TELL US HOW TO TAKE CARE OF THEIR KID WHILE THEY GO TO WORK!!!! SO FRUSTRATING....HAVE YOU EXPLAINED TO HER SHE GETS TONS MORE STIMULATION AT YOUR HOUSE? DO THEY WALK HER TO THE PARK EVERY DAY? DO THEY HAVE MULTIPLE KIDS ALL OVER THEIR HOUSE GIVING HER SOOOOO MUCH TO SEE AND DO, EVERY DAY? HERES ONES...HOW BOUT IF YOU ASK HER TO GET ON YOUR SCHEDULE INSTEAD. ??????????

I feel for you seriously, I have had sooooo many "new parents" do this crap to me. Ask in the am "could you please have her nap more in the afternoon? she has been getting up through the night at random times to eat, thats not her ussual." I have to look at this Mom and hold back what I really want to say: " you f-ing moron!!!! your baby is a baby...they have unpredictable schedules and needs, they have weeks of growth and weeks of sleep, they have different needs. If you didnt want to "get up in the night to take care of your own child" you should have kept your legs crossed!!!!! i do everything for you during the day because you choose to work instead of raise your daughter.....how bout a thanks for all you do!!! rather than a "you could do this better, and this and this!!!!" Geese, just shy of coming to your house in the middle of the night to take care of her for you, I think I do quite a bit. FREAK!!!!!!!! and God forbid, we (able and knowledgeable providers) ever make a "suggestion" to these "book-smart" "doctor lead" parents regarding the care of their child, they look at us like we are crazy and make comments like "you mean to tell me my doctor isn't right?" like as if the Doctor is God himself and IF they go against his recommendation they will be condemned to the FIRES OF HELL! AAAHHHH I hate these kinds of parents!!!!! (if you can't tell) where has basic intelligence gone?

[treeholm]

If I were a parent reading this thread, I would be very sad to think that this is how my child care provider views me. Just sayin'...

[Mamma_Mia]

If I were a parent reading this thread, I would be very sad to think that this is how my child care provider views me. Just sayin'...

Too bad! Don't like it? leave... and maybe....JUST MAYBE they'll learn a thing or two from reading it!

You mean to tell me you'd be ok with a parent coming into your home and demanding you to follow THEIR rules so they THEY can get a full night's sleep insted of taking care of their OWN child?? They would rather have me put up with a constant screaming from a tired child for the sake of them being able to sleep that night (which wont work anyways! babies wake up...especially ones who are almost 11mos and have been teething so bad AND don't have ONE single tooth yet). Maybe I should do that.....not give her a nap, let her cry & scream for hours until it's "MOM's nap time" and see how that goes!! Ya'think mom would be happy then?

[kidlove]

This is Not all parents...just the "ignorant" ones! and there are almost as many as Great Parents unfortunately!

[kidlove]

oh my! just read back my response from earlier, oooooooh, a little harsh. I guess if a parent read that they certainly would be like WOW!!!!! Sometimes a "typed" vent can seem quite crazy!!! The truth is, sometimes we (providers) are expected to "fix" everything for parents when it doesnt work out to their "liking". Bottom Line: WE DO A GOOD JOB "raising" these kids 9-5 and should be thanked, not scrutinized!

[kidlove]

I knew I liked you mama-mia, reading your threads I bet you "say it like it is". nothing wrong with that. I have to say...I have gone for years feeling disrespected by parents and "having NO ONE to talk to about it" unless you are a provider and go through the same things, you just don't understand the "hardships" of the job. We have to be "pleasant" and "kind" "softspoken" and "understanding" all the while have random parents blow into our house like "tornados" and attempt to run the show. When they have chosen to hand you the reins, but try to keep a hold at the same time. Just doesnt work that way so well. and you have to let it out every now and then. thanks for your vent, thanks for allowing mine!

[sunnydays]

I think we need to remember that this is a public forum and is a website where parents come to look for a prospective daycare provider...when they come to do their search, the forum is right up there on the home page...and if I were a parent looking for care, the title of this post would definitely catch my eye and would probably anger me. While it can be challenging dealing with differing parenting values etc, I do think we need to be careful not to scare new parents away from home daycare by referring to them in such terms. Sometimes it is simply because new parents really don't understand what it is like to care for multiple children...how can they understand if they have no experience with it? I think it is our job to help them understand in a repectful way.

[Crayola kiddies]

I'm a parent and I know I've made lots of mistakes ... Just ask my kids ; )

I know this post was not about making mistakes it was about parents wanting us to cater to them and how unrealistic it really is .... But ..... Like the poster above I think this thread casts a bad light on dayhome providers ....JMO

[kidlove]

me too, crayola kiddies....tons.