Parents are dumb!! [Long]

[kidlove]

BTW. This Mom is only frustrated because she wants to sleep all night with no interruptions because she is tired, works all day and has to get up early to go to work!!!! She wants you to FIX her problem. It's so easy to "blame it on the Day Care". My kids a Brat..must be the day care. My kid doesnt sleep well...must be the day care. my kid says "I hate you" ...must be the day care. so much easier to hold others responsible.

[treeholm]

If I were a parent reading this thread, I would be very sad to think that this is how my child care provider views me. Just sayin'...

[kidlove]

This is Not all parents...just the "ignorant" ones! and there are almost as many as Great Parents unfortunately!

[kidlove]

oh my! just read back my response from earlier, oooooooh, a little harsh. I guess if a parent read that they certainly would be like WOW!!!!! Sometimes a "typed" vent can seem quite crazy!!! The truth is, sometimes we (providers) are expected to "fix" everything for parents when it doesnt work out to their "liking". Bottom Line: WE DO A GOOD JOB "raising" these kids 9-5 and should be thanked, not scrutinized!

[Mamma_Mia]

I don't mean to speak for you Mamma, but I think you meant that this woman was acting as if she was your boss, not that she IS your boss, correct?

Yes Anger doesn't let me think clearly.

[Mamma_Mia]

If I were a parent reading this thread, I would be very sad to think that this is how my child care provider views me. Just sayin'...

Too bad! Don't like it? leave... and maybe....JUST MAYBE they'll learn a thing or two from reading it!

You mean to tell me you'd be ok with a parent coming into your home and demanding you to follow THEIR rules so they THEY can get a full night's sleep insted of taking care of their OWN child?? They would rather have me put up with a constant screaming from a tired child for the sake of them being able to sleep that night (which wont work anyways! babies wake up...especially ones who are almost 11mos and have been teething so bad AND don't have ONE single tooth yet). Maybe I should do that.....not give her a nap, let her cry & scream for hours until it's "MOM's nap time" and see how that goes!! Ya'think mom would be happy then?

[kidlove]

I knew I liked you mama-mia, reading your threads I bet you "say it like it is". nothing wrong with that. I have to say...I have gone for years feeling disrespected by parents and "having NO ONE to talk to about it" unless you are a provider and go through the same things, you just don't understand the "hardships" of the job. We have to be "pleasant" and "kind" "softspoken" and "understanding" all the while have random parents blow into our house like "tornados" and attempt to run the show. When they have chosen to hand you the reins, but try to keep a hold at the same time. Just doesnt work that way so well. and you have to let it out every now and then. thanks for your vent, thanks for allowing mine!

[sunnydays]

I think we need to remember that this is a public forum and is a website where parents come to look for a prospective daycare provider...when they come to do their search, the forum is right up there on the home page...and if I were a parent looking for care, the title of this post would definitely catch my eye and would probably anger me. While it can be challenging dealing with differing parenting values etc, I do think we need to be careful not to scare new parents away from home daycare by referring to them in such terms. Sometimes it is simply because new parents really don't understand what it is like to care for multiple children...how can they understand if they have no experience with it? I think it is our job to help them understand in a repectful way.

[Crayola kiddies]

I'm a parent and I know I've made lots of mistakes ... Just ask my kids ; )

I know this post was not about making mistakes it was about parents wanting us to cater to them and how unrealistic it really is .... But ..... Like the poster above I think this thread casts a bad light on dayhome providers ....JMO

[kidlove]

Every once in a while I do remind myself that it is a "public forum" for providers and parents alike. Other times, I feel like its a private chat with friends, where else can we (providers) go for a vent? Being careful what is typed SHOULD be priority, completely agree with you...and how mamamia stated: "sometimes our anger takes over", completely agree with that too. Sometimes we come here to share joys, sometimes to share troubles and sometimes just to "spew"...I guess bottom line...we all are who we are, take us or leave us. For those parents who read this and dont like whats said can do the latter of the two. If you can't "spew" sometimes to a "friend", what do you do?
In regards to the "how can they understand if they have no experience with it?"....my point exactly, so why are these "new" parents treating us (most of us) "seasoned" providers, as employees who must follow their demands, instead of treating us with respect and asking for advice or simply listening when we talk. Can't speak for anyone elses experience, but my issue stems from first time parents who are "clearly" (IMO) doing things wrong and having "issues", yet rather than taking advice, are actually "telling" me what to do with their child every day. Nap, don't nap, feed, don't feed....there is a fine line between working together and trying to make someone work for you. If they want control that badly, they just need to stay home and raise their own child 24/7. Otherwise, return the respect that is originally offered in the first place.