Thanks everyone for your responses, I sometimes view the majority of you as "harder than me" thinking "maybe I need to be more firm on my families?" but, after reading your responses, there are really only a few of you who seem to be "hard-core" Follow my Rules or Hit the Road! kind of ladies, the rest of you seem more like me, "work it out for the betterment" before terminating. I always address issues when need be, with a quick comment or universal letter to all. I do prefer to "terminate" on a last resort basis. I see eye to eye with cfred, and littledragon on the "hating confrontation" and have to say: I totally agree with Mamma-mia, I too "want to say" what I wouldn't dare have come out of my mouth. (that's what I come here for or go to my poor Husband about!!!! So I don't "spew" how I really feel...otherwise, I'd lose all my families because at one time or another, I could have really said some BAD things to all of them (sure they could say some crazy stuff to me too) thank God for "self control"
Even though I have only terminated 3, I have had many more "leave" by choice, "if the going got tough" (sometimes we didnt see eye to eye, or had MANY talks regarding not following contract or child/parent behavior) they made the choice for me...thats always the best, that way...you get rid of the "fruit cake and don't look like the "bad-guy".