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[Inspired by Reggio]

This is my take on negativity Jec .... the world is about finding balance ... we need a small amount of negativity in our lives as it has a place in this world because in order to appreciate the POSITIVE we need to remember that it could be worse ... this is the balance of the world ~ how could one truly appreciate the gift of life is there was no death, how could we enjoy the light if not for the dark ... it is basic science in life for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction!

So yes human beings need to be able to vent and express frustrations so we can openly reflect on what went wrong, what the obstacle is and than to make changes towards being positive again to fix the issue this is suppose to be the purpose of 'venting' to let out some steam so we can focus on ensuring that what we are cooking in our lives turns out healthy for everyone .... however when venting becomes a way of life, when you are so surrounded by the negative thoughts that they are all you see and all you feel than there becomes an issue because well than no one wants to come near you or whatever you've go cooking in that pot cause it always looks like it is about to boil over with some sort of toxic brew inside it .... IMO if this is how someone is constantly venting about the same things over and over again it is time to reflect on if what you are seeing is truly 'reality' or have you spent so much time focusing and feeding the negativity that you have created a 'jaded view of the world' so to speak .... time to take a good hard look at what you have in that pot so to speak and if it is time to throw it out and start brewing a new reciepe!

I love this proverbial lesson ....

Two Wolves: A Cherokee Teaching
An elderly Cherokee Native American was teaching his grandchildren about life...

He said to them, "A fight is going on inside me, it is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.

One wolf is evil -- he is fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, competition, superiority, and ego.

The other is good---he is joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.

This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other person, too."

They thought about it for a minute and then one child asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"

The old Cherokee simply replied: "The one you feed".

Feed the wolf you want to be predominant in your life .... if you want to have a positive life filled with joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith than surround yourself with people, places and things where this is the PRIME focus because IME if you surround yourself with other people who are feeding their wolf a steady diet of fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, competition, superiority, and ego than those wolfs grow stronger and can overpower your sense of self because their negativity eats up everything in its path!

I have been in the childcare industry for almost a quarter of a century .... I can tell you that I have spent my entire career 'vacating' water coolers where the water has been so poisoned by others negativity that there was no longer any refreshment in it .... sad but true that this happens in the childcare industry .... if the water is no longer feeding and nourishing your soul and your attempt to chlorinate it with your positivity is being overpowered by continued pollution of others than it is no longer the place you want to be drinking from and its time to find a new water cooler that is more in 'balance' with your goals