Really?!

[Judy Trickett]

Interesting thread. Let's just get it all out in the open. I have more balls than Jec does so I'll just ask her - WHY are you trashing my other site here on daycarebear? I hardly think this is the place.

Besides, YOU requested membership there. YOU came on and started thread after thread ASKING for help with your policies, guidelines and contracts. YOU asked for information dealing with difficult parents. And you know what? EVERY TIME you asked for that information someone on that forum was kind enough to answer and offer you FREE information to help you out with expecting absolutely NOTHING in return. Please, DO tell me where you are gonna find that in the world?

You know what, Jec, I have more respect for every single provider who bitches and complains then I ever will for someone like you who goes out and trashes other people behind their backs without ever having the balls to stand up and OWN your words right in front of that person.

Here's another thing............... ....daycare forums - especially those that are private where providers can come and complain or just cry and have someone else understand them SAVE KID'S LIVES. Do you even know how many kids died in a home daycare last year in North America? More than TEN! Yes, more than ten kids DIED last year in daycare. And I can tell you right now those providers who KILLED those kids felt alone and did NOT have someone to come and talk to and vent and feel validated in their feelings. I am NOT excusing the behaviour of anyone who takes the life of another - not at all. But I can assure you the LESS support ANYONE has in ANY job or life in general the more they are going to become jaded and feel helpless and alone and frustrated. So, while you see my forum as negative I actually see it as a positive. A LOT of providers - HUNDREDS - have benefited from the words written on my blog and the forum. And for every provider that was helped so were the kids in their care.

If every provider had a safe, PRIVATE place to post daycare would be better for EVERYONE. And, thanks to you, you just jeopardized that very same security they felt having a safe place to post. Congratulations - you have just made daycare harder for every provider out there.

You are newbie who has NO idea what daycare entails from a personal and mental standpoint. I love how you have the audacity to come on here and publicly bash another forum - the very SAME forum you felt was beneficial enough to TAKE all that free advice with regard to contracts, policies, and fees etc. How the hell do you think those providers came up with those iron-clad, very comprehensive contracts and policies????? Because they have lived, breathed and experienced daycare non-stop for years, decades. You can NOT take the great advice from them that you WANT and get yourself all set up nice and cozy and then turn around and bite the hand that feeds.

Good luck. You will do one of two things. You will either close up in a year because you realize that daycare, although a GREAT job, is not all rainbows and sunshine ever day OR, you will toughen up, realize we "negative" people were right and carry on. Either way, I can guarantee you that within the next 5 years you will NOT think what you do today.