I had a "angry Dad", we were "spanked" which I DO AGREE with. However...my Dad would "spank" or "yell" when he was angry...I swore I would NEVER do that! I spank my kids but ONLY after sending then to their room and thinking twice. I NEVER punish my kids in anger! EVER! That is what I learned from my Dad, you must lead by example, you are not teaching your child anything if you are acting "out of control". I am always composed when handling any kind of "bad behavior" with my children, from "talking it out" to "spanking" you must always "keep composed"........and NEVER degrade your child, I feel things that "degrade" a child are like any kind of "public" punishment. I would NEVER spank my child in front of others, making them stand on a chair in front of "invited" guests? that to me is so degrading. My kids know full well that I am "the boss" and to be respected (as all adults should by children) however....to a healthy level, punushment publicly , whatever form....IMO seems wrong!