Strange form of discipline

[lainey76]

Yeah when we lived in the U.K our punishments were alot worse than I have ever seen in Canada.... we got the belt/strap when we were naughty.... none of the time out stuff lol and since then I swore I would never spank my kids .

[bright sparks]

Yeah when we lived in the U.K our punishments were alot worse than I have ever seen in Canada.... we got the belt/strap when we were naughty.... none of the time out stuff lol and since then I swore I would never spank my kids .

Discipline is always a touchy subject as people tend to have strong opinions on it.Here's mine

Also being raised myself in the UK and now raising my own children in Canada I know that it is completely different. Physical punishment was the norm and really has just made me grow up to hate my father. I've turned into a decent kind human being with morals because my dad hit me. It’s not because that taught me to behave but taught me not to grow up to be that kind of parent. Ultimately in my opinion your kids grow up to be like you or hate you for those kinds of negative things.

I want to back A&B up by saying thanks for at least reaching out for opinions and feedback about the situation. Too many people are passive to this kind of behaviour always saying its no one else’s business which quite frankly is nonsense. Obviously you can’t go interfering in other people’s business but I think it’s a good idea to be observant and keep track of things that are going on as you could ultimately save a life one day. There is a fine line between punishment/discipline and abuse/neglect. That child doesn’t have the voice or the power to control the situation or stand up for themselves. Isn’t there a chance that treating a child in this manner increases the chance of repercussions as a result of resentment??? I completely get that it is a parents perogative to decide what form of discipline works for them but as a caregiver playing a role in a child’s upbringing, (obviously this is a friends child so a little different), it is important to look out for the child’s best interest. I may piss some people off by saying this but there are many parents out there who are not making the correct choices for their children and that has nothing to do with my opinions on physical or non-physical discipline. The form of punishment a&b is describing is degrading and humiliating and quite honestly IMO and from my experience is far more damaging long term to the child than the occasional tap on the bottom or wrists for misbehaving. Not to say that I am perfect or have the answers to how to correctly discipline a child but in short our children and all children mirror their parents. It’s how they learn. So show your child negative and degrading behaviour often enough and they will turn into that too. More power to the parents who have more effective disciplining techniques which refrain from making a child feel little self-worth and who break the cycle of abusive parenting. I commend you.

These are my opinions based on work experience and extensive personal experience. I would imagine anyone with a Social Work education would have a similar stance on this subject.