Total Respect and understanding alpha. Do what works for you, not saying not spanking doesnt work, just saying....in my experiences it most times doesnt seem to help. I totally respect the fact that you can wonderfully raise your kids with out a spank.....my whole "arguement" is just to defend my personal opinion. thats all, def not to "disrespect" yours. thats just what works for us, it just seems in todays opinion, parents who "spank" tend to get a negative wrap, as if "spanking" is an improper form of child rearing, when my defense is to prove the contrary. Spank or no spank you can raise a well rounded and respectful member of society with a healthy self esteem. Just too bad parents choose to abuse (too much) or neglect (not enough) and it gives well rounded parents like you and I a bad wrap on either end of the spectrum. to each his own, as long as the love a proper growth of the child is at the forefront.