You took my words out of "my Meaning" I meant MY idea as in (kidloves idea) of "not parenting" is not spanking, because Kidloves beliefs are dif than yours and Kidlove feels that HER proper parenting INCLUDES spanking. but I added that I (kidlove) also believe, it IS possible to raise a proper and well behaved child, without spanking. Just not MY (kidloves) choice of parenting. You ARE a good parent, I can tell by the way you talk about your children and their raising...as I AM a good parent with the way I talk about my children and their raising, however...we choose to do it differently. That's All!!!!