I have been trying to transition a baby (just turned 1 year old) into my home daycare and not having any luck. As of today we've done 6 - 1/2 days (unpaid) and I'm not sure what I should/can do to help this child over a very severe case of separation anxiety.

The baby cries non stop from the time Mom leaves until he falls asleep from crying exhaustion. During his crying fits I pick him up when he reaches out his arms but then he pushes me away trying to get away. Other times he clings to me like his life depended on it screaming in my face. He is actually so scared he is shaking from head to toe, and no attempts to divert his attention with toys, books, gental voice, or back pats work to calm him. Some naps are only 15 mins becasue he's spends the whole time crying. After nap time is over it's only a tiny bit better because he's eating but as soon as I leave the room(the kitchen/dinningroom/playroom is open concept so I'm always in view) he's back to crying. Basically he just cries it out until his mom picks him up. I know anxiety is normal but I've just never seen this level before. Mom is starting back to work full time next week, and she knows that the transition is not going well. He will be coming the rest of the week as well. We're supposed to sit down on friday to talk about the situation, she had mentioned that maybe we're moving too fast and we need to slow down-perhapse he should just do part time for a month or so (have her mom come down to watch him the rest of the time)

With that being said if we decide this isn't working out for eithor of us sould I refund the deposit? Our original agrement was full time I don't look after children part time that would affect my income. I've not charged for the transition days and by friday it will be 9-1/2 days. I just don't know what to do and need some advice, after 6 days I just don't see any changes I don't know if this is going to get better!