My home is not peanut free, nor am I willing to make it so. The simple fact that dh is not comfortable means that I have to terminate anyway. I don't mean that I am submissive to his wishes, but as I operate my business out of our shared home, I feel it would be disrespectful of me to care for the girl against his wishes. He mentioned the same as you, cfred - would I ever be able to get over it if heaven forbid this little girl have a reaction, or die in my care?

It's not as if we'd never have a friend or family member come by if their LO had food allergies - it's just that dh feels (and I agree to an extent) that my business need not include a risk this great.

I am also cringing thinking back on the what if's of her first day here. What if I'd given out homemade cookies that day? She didn't mention the allergy until AFTER she started eating the snack I had provided. Her father didn't come by with the epipen until she had already been at my house EATING MY FOOD. I am pretty incensed that her mother was so cavalier about the whole thing, although she did tell me that she's never had to use the epipen...a million eyerolls!

Thanks for the input.