I am with your husband on this one! I don't accept sever food allergy kids into my daycare as the risk is just too high and I cannot ensure their safety! And the fact that she didn't tell you is absoultely mind-blowing...her child could have died because of her omission and you would not even know what to tell the paramedics as you were not aware of the allergy! I, like you, would not go against my husband's wishes when it comes to something like this because what I do in our home as a daycare provider has a huge effect on the whole family...if I am sued, we are all sued...I always respect his opinions on matters such as these!