Putting on/Taking off shoes and jackets

[kidlove]

I agree!!!!! They SHOULD be at least attempting to do this. This is a "life skill" and can very easily be rendered with practice. You hit the nail right on the head, some parents just do it for them because they really dont think their "baby" is capable and others do it because its easier than taking the time to teach them. Just like toilet training, they will pick it up sooner or later on their own BUT have full ability to "learn" how, so much earlier if the adults take the time to show the child how to do it.
That being said, how about if you treat it as a MAJOR accomplishment when they actually do it? If someone takes their shoes and coat off by them self not only give them praise a big hug, and a high five! the others see the positive encouragement and they too, "want to do a high five with you!"
I have a little guy who I swear is the biggest "flake" in the world...very smart, potty trained, gets everything, just such a smart boy......can't dress himself. gets the feet in the pants but every which way but the right way, also does not put on his own shoes or take them off half the time, attempts it, but gives up after one try unsuccessful (lazy) I make him continue until he gets it right, sometimes he gets so frustrated he cries.... I just give him the right leg and encourage to put the foot in, then the next foot. Or show him how to use his thumb on the back of his foot to get his shoes off. Really think its just the result of it being done for him more than being encouraged to do himself. If parents could only understand, by encouraging their children to do these "tiny tasks" they are building their self esteem. Nothing more gratifying for a little person than when they learn to do something "all by themselves" just stick to it, and ask the parents to do the same at home.