I have been sending kids off to school the last couple of years barely able to do anything at least willingly for themselves - mostly boys if that makes a difference.

Parents today are rushed and don't take the time to teach as it is at least in their minds faster to just do it themselves. Those robeeze slippers are part of the problem,lol. With old fashion runnrs, kids learned from 12-15 months to take off socks and shoes and be quite proud of themselves. Putting them on took a lot longer to learn but at least they were usually willing to try.

For your son, remember he has an older sister that he is emulating whereas your daycare kids don't so for sure he is being exposed to more than they are. But the three year olds should have mastered more than they are willing to show.

The more toddlers run, jump, play with balls and blocks and the less time they spend with crafts and circle time the sooner they will have the coordination and manual dexterity to do things like shoes and coats too.